The Eye Of The Storm

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Hi all - your guest blogger returns!

I know it has been a bit slow on the blog front, but I was thinking about that this morning and I came to the conclusion that it makes sense. After the big rush that was the first few months - from venues to planner to DJ, caterers, and photography, we clearly had a lot on our shoulders and a lot to get through.

With [most] of that now in place, though there are always things to be done, I think it's healthy for us to have taken some time away from all of this to focus on, well, us. We struggled with a lot of things in this wedding planning, but nothing more than who this wedding really is about. It's so easy to just dismiss that statement as "duh! it's about YOU, not your guests." However, I imagine that any of our married Indian friends may know the difficulty in making such a statement. The reality is that at least to some degree, an Indian wedding is not just about the couple - it is about the community. It is about bringing a community together to celebrate both the union itself and also sort of thanking those who have made the bride and groom who they are. I wish I had a more articulate way of putting it, but I don't. In the end, it's just not as easy to be selfish when you're throwing an Indian wedding.

That being said, I'm very happy with our proposed options (coming soon) for how to achieve that balance. We have some great ideas to ensure we get what we want and our guests are happy. Innovative ones. Ideas that will most certainly make their way to this blog.

But this post is not about what those options are. This is about us saying that we need to take a step back and appreciate how far we've come with the planning, and need to just spend some time together, like "the good old days", when the word "wedding" wasn't in every other sentence. I know this sounds a bit selfish here, but even if only a portion of the wedding is truly about us, our lives are almost entirely about us and we can't lose sight of that.

So, we need to go out for sushi again. We need to cook together, drinking wine and listening to music with Anjani in her super cute apron. We need to watch HGTV, FoodTV, and lots and lots of movies again. We need to see our friends again. We need to take trips again (Vienna in 2 weeks and Cabo 2 weeks after that!). We need to go to shows around town (dance show on Sunday!). We need to reclaim our life back during this "eye of the storm". Even if just for a short time, we need it. I think all couples need it.

That is not to say there's no activity at all on the wedding front. We are still working closely with Amy (our planner) to take care of some small things. We still have to finalize inspiration boards, color themes, decorations, etc. Over the last few days, Anjani and I worked very hard on a really cool save-the-date idea, and that's in pretty good shape. I'm really excited with how that project turned out and hopefully our guests will love it, too. Stay tuned on that.

Yes, there's always things that can be done for the wedding. But I urge all couples to take advantage of the "eye of the storm" whenever you get it and take some time for each other and for the relationship. Remind yourselves why you love each other and why you're doing the wedding in the first place!

Until the next one, see you all soon...